The People in Comfort

As of June 2018, the United Nations estimates that there are 7.6 billion people on planet earth. So why does it
sometimes feel like we are all by ourselves and have to pull ourselves through alone?

One of the loneliest places to be is in the middle of a trial all by yourself. There are many points in time then you are
in the midst of a trying circumstance when it can feel like absolutely no one knows what you are going through, the pain
you feel, or thoughts in your head. The fact of the matter is none of that matters. With 7.6 billion people on this earth,
there is for sure at least one person around you that wants to help you and want to comfort you. I would like to go over
the people that were involved in my life when I needed comfort most and give some ideas as to where to find these loving
people.

First up is my husband. Sam has been my best friend for seven years now.
Five years ago when we got married I had no Idea that I would depend on his
friendship as much as his unconditional love for me. Throughout our
miscarriages and now years of infertility, as I have visited times of sadness,
frustration, bitternss, and jealousy, he has always been there to lovingly steer
my attitude back towards Christ. Does your best friend do this? Sam is not
perfect. He is a sinner just like me and you, but he is very humble and
heavenly minded (and will probably hate that I am saying all of this for
everyone to read). Through our struggles, Sam has always been someone
that I can count on to have something to tell me from his quiet time with God.
He constantly encourages me to refocus my mind on what God has given us
and the task that are at hand. I encourage you to find a friend like this and to
be a friend like this!

Next up is my family. Both my mom and my mother-in-law have
been wonderful as I talk through what has happened. They have
both prayed with me and pointed me back to realizing that God is
in control. My sisters have been there to listen to me when I just

need someone to listen. My dad and my father-in-law have both
expressed their concern just by asking how Sam and I were doing
Sometimes comfort comes in knowing that people care about you!

God was very gracious to Sam and I in giving us another couple that have been our “infertility friends”.
Though we praise the Lord that they do have a child now, for the first part of both of our marriages we went
through similar thought and feelings. This was a couple that we turned to when we needed to talk about something.
There have been many long nights of conversation, many tears, many laughs, and many prayers between us and
them. They have been a couple that has pointed Sam and I back to Christ and God’s plan for us when we both
needed it! My friendship with Sam is something that I treasure, but there is a high value placed on our friendship
with this couple as well. I encourage you as a couple to find another couple that can be your friend. There are
things that Sam does not understand about the way that I think and feel because God did not design him to think
and feel that way. There is great benefit in being able to talk with another woman about this and have her completely
understand what I’m saying.

The last on my list is the most important person involved in the comfort process. Proverbs 18:24 says “A man who
has friends must himself be friendly, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.” If you believe that you are a
sinner on your way to hell, that Jesus came and lived a perfect life, died on the cross for your sins, was buried, and
rose again, and have asked Jesus Christ to forgive you from your sins, you are never alone. If this is your story, you have
a friend that sticks closer than a brother. You cannot see Him right now, but He is always there. I have found great
comfort that.

I want to leave you with the words of a good old hymn, What a Friend we have in Jesus. They say:

What a friend we have in Jesus, all our sins and griefs to bear!

What a privilege to carry everything to God in prayer!

O what peace we often forfeit, o what needless pain we bear,

All because we do not carry everything to God in prayer.